What's The Big Idea: You’re a Liar. How to Tell the Truth and Redesign Your Life.


“I am not telling a person to lose their commitment to kindness. Learning how to tell the truth without hurting someone or messing with them is really an art of communication…“

Today’s guest: Lauren Zander

Her big idea: How to Tell the Truth and Redesign Your Life.

Special Offer: Me and Lauren are leading a group through a three month life coaching course and we have a special $75 discount for WTBI listeners. 

I am inviting thirty people to join Junto and Inner.U for a three month virtual course. If you've ever been curious about life coaching, I can't recommend a better place to start. 

Inner.U leverages the Handel Method that my mentor Lauren Zander created, used with me (changed my life) and now I use it with my own clients. The course starts by helping you to identify your big, audacious goals in 12 important areas of life (Money, Love, Community, Health, Purpose etc.). Then, it helps you to identify all of the blockers (inner dialogue, traits, family shit and relationships) that are getting in your way. Finally, they provide you with proprietary tools that you will use to turn these blockers into assets that help you to live the live you REALLY want to live. My weekly wrap up call will hold you accountable for getting shit done and the 30 people we're inviting into our crew will be awesome. 

The three month course is only $575 and includes weekly coaching calls with me, 2 monthly calls with the Handel team and access to all the materials for life. For reference, this costs less than two in-person coaching sessions. 

If you have any questions or want to speak with somebody on the Handel team, let me know!


LAUREN HANDEL ZANDER is a life coach, university lecturer, public speaker, and the Co-Founder and Chairwoman of Handel Group®, an international corporate consulting and private coaching company based in New York City. Lauren is also the author of Maybe It’s You: Cut the Crap, Face Your Fears, Love Your Life (Published by Hachette Book Group, April 2017), a no-nonsense, practical manual that helps readers figure out not just what they want out of life, but how to actually get there. She has spent over 20 years coaching thousands of private clients: entrepreneurs, couples, families, professors, politicians, Emmy, Peabody and Academy Award-winning artists, Grammy-winning musicians and Fortune 500 CEOs. Her corporate clients have included executives from Sony BMG, The New York Times, News Corp, J. Walter Thompson Agency, Citibank, Dropbox, LinkedIn, Uniworld, The Gap Inc., BASF, NYU Langone Medical Center, and Vogue. She has fixed corporate business relationships, mediated contract negotiations, reconciled marriages, and helped resolve complex family issues.

In the early 2000s, Lauren created a groundbreaking methodology, The Handel Method®, which is supported by top educators and psychologists, and has been taught in over 35 major universities and institutes of learning across the country.

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Key insights Shared:

  • Why we as human beings really don’t need to lie

  • What is the definition of a lie?

  • The 7 different types of lies (small vs. BIG)

  • The reasoning in your head that validates the lie

  • Confidence is a verb and not a noun

  • Why telling the truth is the greatest act of love

  • Distinguishing between being honest and telling the truth vs. too much information

  • If I can’t tell you “I think…(something)”, it must be true

  • Who are you fully honest with?

  • The value of having your “core people” that you are completely honest with

  • The chicken & the brat as voices in your head

  • The concept of being the warrior gatekeeper of your mind

  • The idea of the ‘higher-self’

  • Morality vs. truth-telling

  • Whether you like it or not, you have an audience in your head!

  • The areas of life where people are most often lying

  • The importance of dreams in helping people step into truth-telling and integrity

to learn more about Lauren and her work:

Website: https://www.handelgroup.com/lauren-handel-zander/

Inner.U: https://www.inneru.coach

Twitter: @LaurenZander

Facebook: @LaurenZander

Instagram: @LaurenZander_Coach